3 Words to Transform Your Friendships and Influence

Sometimes the most powerful lessons are the ones we need a constant reminder of – the kind of timeless wisdom you can rely on over and over again no matter what stage you’re at. I went back to the archives and picked out one of my short but impactful favorites. It helps me gently change relationship patterns that no longer serve my spirit.

I’m sharing it again because it is a reminder to continue to put your awesomeness into the world and this is a small but important way to do it…

A Moment For Reset

Sometimes you just wanna get it done. Right? Either you’re pressured, maybe on a deadline. Maybe frustrated or irritated that you gotta be doing it in the first place. And this can be at home, at work, or simply taking care of something over the phone. And you want it done now! Sure, you can be a brat about it. Push, push push “I hope we can do this quickly, because I’m in a hurry!”

I’m suggesting something different. I’m suggesting that you give people the benefit of the doubt that they’re hopping to it for you.  This shift allows for a much needed energetic reset within our daily interactions. Mostly, I find that people want to be helpful – the people you work with, your partner, a friend.

Learning to Change Relationship Patterns

So here’s where those 3 magic words come in: When someone close to you or somebody at a service desk says, “I’ll take care of that for you right away!”

You say: get ready for it… “Thanks. Take your time.” 

How often do you hear that from someone, “Take your time”? This serves two valuable purposes: First, the difference between, “Take your time” versus “Could you hurry it up” is radically different and resets the energetic boundary between you and another person.

We often want to address old relationship patterns before they cause unnecessary friction.  Think about it, when someone says to you “Take your time” doesn’t that lift the pressure and put you in a different frame of mind?

In my experience, the person you just said that to is not going to work any slower. But you’ve initiated a whole new dynamic. The second point is that it makes you a kinder person and when you offer up that spaciousness to another, it makes you feel good. This simple approach is a beautiful way to change relationship patterns without overthinking it.

Allowing yourself this soft pause is a quiet way of healing old emotional wounds that keep you feeling tight. When you let go of the need to push, you find yourself discovering real inner freedom in your everyday interactions.

A fascinating study published by the Greater Good Science Center shows that lowering pressure in our daily exchanges directly reduces our stress response and brings us closer together.

I invite you to try this as a daily practice. This can also be a real bonus for your intimate relationships – because it feels good to the other person when you’ve extended that kindness. And kindness begets kindness.

With Love,

Becca

P.S. If what I’m saying reminds you of your longing to explore how much more you have to give and share in this world, I invite you to join us in Portugal for my fall retreat! It’s sure to be a profound odyssey into the deepest realms of your heart. Besides, I can’t wait to show you the magic of my newly adopted country! 

Questions? Let’s have a chat.