You don’t need more revelation. You need new wiring.
When I was a kid, I lived in a household where yelling wasn’t just common, it was the soundtrack to my childhood. Rage moved fast. The air was sharp with volatility. And like all kids in unsafe environments, my body learned to adapt before I had words for what was happening. I froze. I braced. I disappeared into myself.
That wiring doesn’t just fade with time. It settles into the nervous system, operating beneath conscious awareness as it influences everything: how you respond to stress, how you handle conflict, how you parent, and how you engage with your own healing.
And here’s something I know for sure – not just from my own story, but from years of guiding others through theirs:
You can’t rewire your nervous system with big realizations or emotional breakthroughs – not even the psychedelic kind.
And I want to talk about the psychedelic kind, because the cheerleading around them is escalating at a dizzying pace.
Psychedelics Aren’t the Change – They’re the Disruption
There’s a growing belief that one ceremony, one session, one heroic dose, or one breakthrough can rewrite a lifetime of survival patterns.
It makes for great marketing copy, but it’s not what actually happens.
Psychedelics can crack you open. They can bring buried emotions and old stories to light. But unless your body has been taught how to hold what gets revealed, gently, consistently, over time, the nervous system defaults right back to what it knows: shutdown, explosion, collapse, control and the like.
The real transformation isn’t in the experience itself. It’s in the rewiring that happens afterward… or better yet, the foundation you build before you even begin.
Psychedelics are powerful tools (including microdosing protocols). They can crack open what’s been buried. They can reveal patterns. They can offer visions of what’s possible.
But they don’t change you – not on their own. Breakthroughs feel good in the moment. But without nervous system retraining, even the most powerful psychedelic experiences fade. It’s what you apply, before and after, that creates real change.
Because once the medicine fades, your body won’t improvise healing, it’ll reach for the same old levers: control, collapse, avoidance, rage. If you haven’t installed a new pattern, the old ones will run the show.
People often ask why their journeys don’t “stick.” They felt so open, so clear. But a week or two later, they’re back in the same loops.
The truth is simple: without working with your nervous system, nothing sticks. You can’t expect your body to respond differently in high-stress moments if you haven’t trained it to do so in everyday life.
Practice Rewires Patterned Survival
Most of our reactions aren’t chosen. They’re reenacted. You feel the surge. Your breath shortens, your jaw clenches, your body prepares for battle. And before your thinking brain even arrives, the old move has already been made: you snap, you shut down, you disappear.
If you haven’t offered your nervous system something else to do, it will do what it knows. Period.
That’s why I say: “Your body doesn’t suddenly figure out how to stay calm. It falls back on whatever it’s done before.”
Emotional fluency, self-awareness, somatic resilience – these are not traits. They are skills. You build them like anything else: with repetition, care, and time.
Healing Isn’t a Moment. It’s a Process.
The good news is your nervous system is malleable or plastic (we call this neuroplasticity). It can change. And psychedelics can absolutely help open the door to do that.
But it’s what you do in the days, weeks, and months before and after that decides whether anything real takes root.
The medicine opens the channel. But what changes you is how you listen, how you move with what arises, and how you honor the intuitive knowing that follows.
That’s what I teach. That’s what I lead.
Come Feel What this Work is
If what I’m saying calls to you, intrigues you, or even just stirs a quiet curiosity, this is your invitation to dip your toe in.
My Cannabis Elevation Ceremonies are free gatherings where you can experience this work, not just read about it.
We work with small, intentional amounts of cannabis (always optional) to access subtle emotional states, not to escape, but to listen. We slow down enough to feel what’s rising, and then stay with it, not analyze it, not judge it, just staying with it.
This is how we build capacity.
Through movement, sound, focused awareness, and cannabis as a gentle ally, we rehearse new nervous system responses. You learn how to meet intensity without flinching. You learn what safety feels like, not as an idea, but as a sensation you can return to.
And if you’re working with psychedelics, this kind of practice is essential. Otherwise, those big moments of awakening become fleeting. A vision, a feeling… gone.
But when your nervous system is ready. Trained – the insights have somewhere to land.
Come Practice With Me
If you’re preparing for a psychedelic journey OR if you’ve had one and can’t seem to hold on to what it gave you OR you simply want to stop reenacting stress patterns you never chose…
Join me for my next Cannabis Elevation Ceremony on Sunday, December 14th.
It’s a fully experiential space to explore your emotional landscape, strengthen your nervous system, and build real integration – not with more default mental chatter, but by learning to stay with what arises.
Come curious. Come raw. Come ready to lay new tracks.
Because transformation doesn’t happen in the medicine.
It happens in the preparation before and the integration afterward.
And your nervous system is ready to learn something new.
With Love,
Becca
