This is the 2nd week installment of my mission over 52 weeks (all of 2025) to uncover the countless ways I catch myself judging my appearance – or how I imagine others might judge me. This week: Thigh gap phobia. In earlier years, it use to be a morning ritual. I’d get out of bed, stand up, put my legs together and look down to see if I had “space” between my thighs – that coveted thigh gap.
Even though I just started documenting my awareness of the comparing and self-body shaming I do, I’m seeing that often my attention is focused on the figures of other women. Now that, in and of itself, is benign but it’s the cascade of thoughts associated with my observations.
I’ve had a strange compulsion since Trump won the White House – I’m drawn to dystopian films and series. And, at the same time, I find myself reflecting deeply on what can be done when faced with overwhelming societal challenges.
A long while back (before my current partner, Ron), I was in a committed relationship and my then-partner and I decided to get some couples counseling. He was a successful businessman and scared to death that somebody would find out that we were seeing a therapist.
“I am so stressed, I am stressed all the time!” Miguel lamented.
“Can you tell me more about what that means?” I ask. “Would you say you’re anxious or fearful about something?”
“I don’t know,” he says shaking his head, “I’m just really stressed!”
Miguel is typical in that he uses the word “stress” as a place holder for what he’s feeling – because he doesn’t have the language to apply to what he’s actually feeling.
What’s been coming up for you lately? Are you ruminating or obsessing about something that you can’t seem to shake? Well, I have some good medicine for that. We just completed my latest 30-day masterclass course on how to manage your difficult emotions. With that in mind, I want to share this practice with you – it gets to the heart of what’s knocking loudest on your head.
Why continue to struggle as a slave to your difficult emotions? … and at wit’s end with the anxiety, the depression, the anger, sadness, and/or self-doubt that may be ruling your world and keeping you stuck and in a state of emotional pain?
I assure you that you don’t have to live like this
When you get to know your body like it’s your best friend, learn to listen and talk to yours as if it’s a trusted confidante and allow yours to teach you about emotional freedom – you’ll be unstoppable.
I love this approach to reclaiming control over your emotions. And making them work for you. It’s nearly unbelievable – but true … seeing your difficult emotions as your allies. I want you to experience this remarkable approach.
I have more I want to share with you in this video…