Becca’s Blog

A cry for help

November 25th, 2022|

I often get letters from folks sharing their experiences and asking questions. This correspondence can offer spectacular insights and musings that answer questions that many others have on their mind. So I’m sharing one with you today…

Go ahead and air your (clean) laundry!

November 13th, 2022|

what I'm sharing with you here is a little far afield from what I usually what I share with you – but allows me to give you some fun insight into an American living in Europe...

Where the War on Drugs still rages

November 10th, 2022|

The majority of people who come to me to learn how to release their difficult emotions report that they've historically coped by taking cannabis to make them feel better. I understand this, as back in the day I used to do this for myself to counteract feelings of crippling anxiety. 

Voting for Cannabis: So close yet so far away?

November 3rd, 2022|

As you likely know there's a big important U.S. mid-term election happening next week (Tuesday, November 8th) with a lot riding on it. Yes, from my new home in southern Europe I am encouraging you to vote!

Difference between missing 😌 and neediness 🥺

October 27th, 2022|

As you may know, I was in a meditation retreat up the road from my Portugal home for a week in a spectacular sacred ancient region called Sagres. I hadn't been in retreat for, well, since I don't remember when.

Nicotine has its claws in me

October 6th, 2022|

I often get letters from folks sharing their experiences and asking questions. This correspondence can offer spectacular insights and musings that answer questions that many others have on their mind. So I’m sharing one with you today…

The problem with thinking positive thoughts

September 30th, 2022|

Don't worry. Be happy! Whether it's a secular or spiritual environment, countless approaches to managing your thinking is based on "Don't think those bad thoughts! Think only good thoughts!" But it's a prescription for mental disaster.

Staying centered in the midst of rejection

September 21st, 2022|

It's been a long difficult road for me getting to a place where I can receive criticism and praise without veering from one emotion to another, feeling rejected or "approved" of. And in my work as an emotions therapist, I find others struggling with this as well in their own personal and professional lives.

Microdosing vs Macrodosing Shrooms

September 16th, 2022|

I often get letters from folks sharing their experiences and asking questions. This correspondence can offer spectacular insights and musings that answer questions that many others have on their mind. So I’m sharing one with you today…

The “Lazy Stoner” is a myth

September 8th, 2022|

Plain and simple – anybody who partakes in cannabis knows that the "lazy stoner" stereotype is bunk. From my perspective, it was simply one more sleazy component of the War on Drugs that hurled shame at people who communed with the plant.

Portugal – Where Wine is Cheaper than Water

September 1st, 2022|

I'm connecting with you from our new home in Lagos – in southern Portugal. As you might know if you've been reading my last few blogs, Ron and I touched down in this land of enchantment with our visas about 7 weeks ago and doing our best to get settled.

Montel Williams asks me about psilocybin microdosing

August 26th, 2022|

I always love opportunities to explain my emotional and trauma recovery method. So it was a double bonus this summer, when I was both invited to speak at the Cannabis science conference (the psychedelic track) and also have a sit down with Montel Williams.

Sadness: Begin Connecting YOUR Dots

August 18th, 2022|

I can still feel the dry summer dust against my skin. Each year, as a little kid, suitcase in hand, I stood along the dirt road at the end of our long gravel driveway. This was my mother's house following the divorce and she intended to put as much space between her and my father as possible.

Cannabis as a Spirit Medicine

August 12th, 2022|

I often get letters from folks sharing their experiences… I call them “Field Reports”. And these field reports offer spectacular insights and musings that answer questions that many others have on their mind. So I’m sharing one with you today...

Dogs are better than people?

August 3rd, 2022|

Honestly, it shocked me. He's a Big Time lawyer with a Big Time presence on Facebook. I won't divulge his name but nearly a quarter of a million people follow his short (professionally produced) videos.

Canna: from U.S. to Portugal

July 29th, 2022|

Like wistfully saying goodbye to a former lover you'll never see again, I'm whispering a bittersweet farewell to my Medical Marijuana Card in Florida – letting it go as I move to my new home country of Portugal.

Why I moved to Portugal

July 21st, 2022|

I loved receiving all the emails responding to my blog last week about prepping to move to Portugal! (A far cry from my usual themes – but I want to share these happenings with you since it's my new life.)

Moving – talk to you from Portugal!

July 15th, 2022|

If you read this on Saturday, I'm planing to be on a plane flying to my new homeland in Europe, southern Portugal (the Algarve for you geography wonks). This isn't the first time I've picked up and moved to another country – I lived in Costa Rica for about 4 years and spent about 6 years in Vancouver, Canada...

What an absence of love looks like

July 8th, 2022|

As I returned to my car from running an errand in a small strip mall, I was stunned to see this window decal on a truck in the parking lot. Take a look at the picture – it says, "My Family,” with a series of 6 guns, from handguns to semi-automatics.

[Interview] Psychedelics, unruly emotions & doing “the work”

June 30th, 2022|

I love when I can discuss the merits of plant medicine as it relates to my emotional release work. And in this interview with Bruce Eckfeldt, the host of Psychedelic Invest Podcast, our poignant discussion brings together all of the components and considerations in my method of doing the work on oneself, training your mind and connecting with your soul.

Riding the waves of cannabis and/or psilocybin microdosing

June 23rd, 2022|

I often get letters from folks sharing their experiences… I call them “Field Reports”. And these field reports offer spectacular insights and musings that answer questions that many others have on their mind. So I’m sharing one with you today (edited for length).

A Big Brain Doesn’t Matter

June 10th, 2022|

I appreciate the generosity of so many who responded to my request last week to answer: "What is your most pressing question about managing your emotions?" It was a cascade of compelling questions with words that expressed emotional anguish … anxiety, irritability, panic, sadness, shame, negativity, stuck – to name just a few.

Get in Touch with Your Crazy

May 26th, 2022|

The first question to be answered in any potentially meaningful relationship is: "And how are you crazy?" So, have you given it any thought: How ARE you crazy?

How Emotions Ravage Your Body

May 17th, 2022|

"When my anxiety ramps up, so does my eczema," one client told me. Skin eruptions, like psoriasis and eczema, are often a common complaint among folks who come to me for emotional release work.

Transformation supported by microdosing

May 11th, 2022|

When a person can learn to use their difficult emotions as their inner guidance system they can dramatically improve their lives and their wellbeing. And in my work in helping people recover from difficult emotions, I continually explore the most efficient and effective approaches to emotional healing.

How does your “losing it” story go?

May 6th, 2022|

How do you present yourself to the outside world? Personally, I used to hide my emotional pain and look normal enough. Professional, successful, measured. But behind that facade lived my wounded self.

Meditation: Beyond the “Sit-Down-and-Shut-Up” Approach

April 29th, 2022|

At its most basic, life is about nourishing the human spirit. Your spirit. Mystical traditions teach that there’s an infinite world inside of us – and the question for our Western minds has always been "How do I access that infinite Inner world?” (i.e. your spirit).

Spirituality & Cannabis: Joan Bello put it on the map for us

April 22nd, 2022|

I started smoking marijuana early in college. A boyfriend turned me on to it and I never looked back. To this very day I medicate. However, far differently than back in those college days. Today I enjoy a toke or two before I go into meditation. I meditate straight too. I like to mix it up.

When tears come, don’t hide them

April 15th, 2022|

Ok, I'm just going to put it out there. I'm a crier. From as far back as I can remember, I would tear-up at the drop of a hat. You?

Here’s How Canna Looks in Portugal, My New Home!

April 15th, 2022|

It's been a crazy few weeks for me as I recently got back from southern Europe – Portugal actually, where Ron and I are planning to move. With everything falling into place, it should be about July when we land in our new home country.

Have you seen the New Age Bullshit Generator?

March 17th, 2022|

Carsey, our crackerjack millennial community nurturer, showed me the hilarious “New Age Bullshit Generator” – as she knows how worthless I find most "New Age" approaches to genuinely helping us feel better.

Talking about microdosing psilocybin

March 13th, 2022|

I love when I can discuss the merits of cannabis and microdosing psilocybin as it relates to my emotions work. And recently, we dove deep into it during my interview on the psychedelic oriented podcast: The Psychedologist with its most excellent host, Leia Friedman.

This does NOT make you a Self-Help Junkie 🙄

March 6th, 2022|

I don't like that term – self-help junkie – never have. The term feels flakey and insinuates failure. Loosely, it refers to someone who pursues self-help approaches and doesn’t follow-through with action.

When Trauma & Meditation Don’t Mix

February 28th, 2022|

It appears that meditation is being talked about and promoted in every corner of our culture these days. The most popular form is called "mindfulness meditation," which promotes quiet sitting. But if you’re struggling with out of control emotions you may need to proceed with caution.

The maverick doc who put medical cannabis on the map

February 22nd, 2022|

Given the whoosh that we're now seeing in the popular rise of psychedelics, it's easy to lose sight of the long hard slog toward legalization of cannabis in the U.S. Over the years, courageous professionals, against all odds, have stepped up in the face of prosecution and persecution to establish new hard won perspectives about this remarkable plant medicine.

“Marijuana Maintenance”: have you heard?

February 7th, 2022|

"You don't know what you're talking about!" angrily wrote one of the people, a therapist, who was getting my emails. "I'm unsubscribing because this is irresponsible behavior," they said in a fit of indignation over me talking about how cannabis appears to be helpful in tapering people off of alcohol.

“Mental Illness” a crazy stigma

February 1st, 2022|

Quick! What do you think of when you hear the term: Mental Illness? You know those convenient questions that come up when you google something? Here's what comes up...

Marrying spirituality with plant medicine

January 25th, 2022|

I often get letters from folks sharing their experiences… I call them “Field Reports”. And these field reports offer spectacular insights and musings that answer questions that many others have on their mind. So I’m sharing one with you today (edited for length).

How Can I Use Cannabis Like Ayahuasca?

January 18th, 2022|

"Hey Becca … what’s the best way I can use Cannabis to make it similar to a ayahuasca ceremony? Can I use the Cannabis and make a similar setting as if it was a ceremony

The gobbledygook of “spiritual talk”

January 18th, 2022|

Have you noticed? Spirituality has a "language" all its own. And it can be impenetrable. As someone who over many years (decades) desperately tried to decode it to figure out how I could free myself of the anxiety, self-doubt and anger that ravaged my life, I grew weary of verbiage that came out of the mouths of holy men...

“Ghosting” is not the answer 👻

January 10th, 2022|

The hip term these days for people not getting back to you is “ghosting." As in “We had a couple dates and then they ghosted me.” But this isn’t about just dating – it’s about people in all kinds of other relationships with us… professional, family, friends who don't get back to us. Heck, you yourself might be a "ghoster"?

There’s no escaping YOU

December 21st, 2021|

I love the story about the man who was traveling and met a farmer working in his field. He asked the farmer what the people in the next village were like. The farmer paused and looked up and asked "What were the people like in the last village you visited?"

The Beatles and psychedelics

December 14th, 2021|

The history of the legendary Beatles has been reignited in a new Netflix documentary called "Get Back." And in an intriguing interview with Terry Gross on her NPR show, Fresh Air, Paul McCartney talks about the Beatles' use of psychedelics and meditation.

How “Liking” Ourself Got Confused with Narcissism

December 6th, 2021|

In this society we have a tortured relationship with the idea of liking ourselves (let alone loving ourselves!). I pulled this image off Instagram of yet another reminder of the meme that if you think or

Cannabis + Psychedelics: deepening the mystical

November 16th, 2021|

This is exciting and intriguing! New research reports that cannabis appears to increase the effects of psychedelic trips relating to mystical-type experiences, ego-dissolution and visual alterations.

Knowing how to pick the best person

November 9th, 2021|

You may or may not be in a position right now to hire others. If you aren't currently, there may come a time – whether you need to hire a web developer, or on a more personal level, a housekeeper or a handyman.

Ayahusaca’s dark side

October 13th, 2021|

Anthropologist Jeremy Narby lived with indigenous Indians of the Amazonian rainforest and studied the ways of ayahuasca shamans and their relationship with the ayahuasca "plant teacher."

Journey of awakening

October 11th, 2021|

I often get letters from folks sharing their experiences… I call them “Field Reports”. And these field reports offer spectacular insights and musings that answer questions that many others have on their mind. So I’m sharing one with you today (edited for length).

When I get High I Just Wanna Cry

October 5th, 2021|

I often get letters from folks sharing their experiences… I call them "Field Reports." And these field reports offer spectacular insights and musings that answer questions that many others have on their mind. So I'm sharing one with you today.

How Toxic is YOUR Anger?

September 10th, 2021|

I'm a big fan of the hugely popular site, Medium. So it was particularly fun when I was invited to be interviewed for the Medium publication, Authority Magazine about Emotional Intelligence.

What happened when I closed my eyes

September 10th, 2021|

I'm a big fan of the hugely popular site, Medium. So it was particularly fun when I was invited to be interviewed for the Medium publication, Authority Magazine about Emotional Intelligence.

Making your email a kindness practice

September 7th, 2021|

I was recently emailing back-and-forth on a matter with someone who does tech work for our little team of Emotional Liberation merry makers. I was asking some questions in regard to handling a particular thing that we had to deal with. His answer was an unvarnished...

Cannabis ≠ Ayahuasca

August 31st, 2021|

I often get letters from folks sharing their experiences… I call them "Field Reports". And these field reports offer spectacular insights and musings that answer questions that many others have on their mind. So I'm sharing one with you today.

It feels vulnerable to tell you this

August 24th, 2021|

I was long embarrassed over my painful and difficult upbringing. There was nothing healthy or exceptional about my childhood. My parents divorced when I was very young – about 3. They hated each other and by extension my father was none too fond of me and moved far away and started a new family.

Releasing emotional trauma

August 17th, 2021|

It never ceases to amaze me how others who discuss or experience my emotions work, can cut right to the chase and eloquently sum it up … often in a way I'd never think to express it!

My “F-word” journey

August 10th, 2021|

I've watched more TV series over the last 18 (COVID) months than, really, ever in my life (how about you?). Since my partner loves political and spy thrillers, I've bent my "no violence" TV watching rule to accept those with the least amount of gratuitous violence.

Gurdjieff: Your misery will save you 😳

July 19th, 2021|

He was what you'd call a modern day mystic committed to waking up as many people as possible. Waking up? George I. Gurdjieff's mission was to guide people living in the U.S. and Europe to higher consciousness believing that humans exist in a state of "waking sleep"...

Cannabis medicine as healing or crutch?

July 13th, 2021|

I often get letters from folks sharing their experiences… I call them "Field Reports". And these field reports offer spectacular insights and musings that answer questions that many others have on their mind. So I'm sharing one with you today.

“If You Hate Meditating Try These Alternatives”

July 8th, 2021|

I was recently interviewed by LifeHacker, a site famously known for life hacks – that is shortcuts, skills or tricks to make life better. While I don't consider what I do "a trick" – it is a very efficient and effective way of releasing stress and overwhelm.

“Rogue” Cannabists 🥷🏼 & Special Event Invite 🚀

June 22nd, 2021|

Often I get responses that frame things better than I ever could. And this is one I received in response to my video last week about the "Haves and Have Nots of Cannabis" who have to forage for their medicine…

Panic attacks from cannabis

June 14th, 2021|

I often get letters from folks sharing their experiences… I call them "Field Reports". And these field reports offer spectacular insights and musings that answer questions that many others have on their mind. So I'm sharing one with you today.

When we change and our world doesn’t!

June 8th, 2021|

If you were a child of the 1960's or a serious student of that Free Love decade you know it was interwoven with psychedelics experimentation, which opened up new perspectives and realizations for many.

“Like magic for me!”

June 1st, 2021|

I often get letters from folks sharing their experiences… I call them "Field Reports". And these field reports offer spectacular insights and musings that answer questions that many others have on their mind. So I'm sharing one with you today.

When your grown kids ignore you

May 25th, 2021|

Jessica's in her late 40's and has a rough-and-tumble relationship with her adult kids. They keep her at arms-length. They're often short with her and don't share what's going on in their lives.

Taming your wild horse 🐎 brain 🧠

May 18th, 2021|

When was the last time you lost control of yourself emotionally? You flew into a rage or you panicked, got lost in anxiety, became overwhelmed with a flush of self-doubt, sadness or depression?

Being Alone & Meditating Did It for Me

May 16th, 2021|

I smoked marijuana consistently with my friends during my junior and senior year and it gave me anxiety and depression from emotions that were overwhelming. After I graduated this year I told myself "Ok, are

Turning to Cannabis & Meditation for the Trauma that Haunts Him

May 4th, 2021|

I often get letters from folks sharing their experiences… I call them “Field Reports.” And these field reports offer spectacular insights and musings that answer questions that many others have on their mind. So I’m sharing another one with you today.

No wonder we try so hard to avoid rejection!

April 27th, 2021|

Oh, the rejection of it all… About 4 years ago, I moved my emotions and trauma recovery practice to be almost fully online. Of course, when you're online you need to do things to attract the people who are interested in your work – it's called marketing:)

Imagining Beyond “420.” Your thoughts?

April 20th, 2021|

Who knew that the activity of 5 California high school guys 50 years ago would be the genesis of paying homage to cannabis?! Back then, "420" was the code-word they made up to express: “let’s get together and smoke some cannabis" because 4:20pm was their gathering time after classes.

He Uses Cannabis as an Emotional Healer

April 15th, 2021|

Cannabis is an emotional healer for me! Suddenly when I smoke I start to cry thinking about the past. And I get certain feelings when I smoke that come to the surface – feelings I

Being WOKE ain’t being AWAKENED

April 13th, 2021|

A number of years ago I followed a popular quasi-vegan diet called macrobiotics. Maybe you've heard of it? It was imported from Japan and was actually more than a diet – it was a way of living in balance and embraced the Eastern spiritual principles of yin and yang, or the rhythms of the Universe.

Empath is Curious if Cannabis is Right for Her?

March 26th, 2021|

I’ve been smoking for a few months off and on and it does nothing but make me sad and guilty for things that have nothing to do with me. I’ll start feeling someone else’s sadness

Cannabis & processing emotions

March 15th, 2021|

I often get letters from folks sharing their experiences… I call them "Field Reports". And these field reports offer spectacular insights and musings that answer questions that many others have on their mind. So I'm sharing one with you today.

Bringing Cannabis and Soul Searching Together

March 10th, 2021|

I refer to my Emotional Liberation® work as the “third wave” of cannabis. That is combining cannabis plant medicine with exploring our deeper consciousness, often referred to as “cannabis and spirituality” … a handy but not entirely accurate reference.

When you don’t want the “cannabis-assisted” part

February 23rd, 2021|

What does “cannabis-assisted” emotions therapy look like without the cannabis? Recently, I got that very question. It wouldn’t be the first. In this case, a woman who’s interested in my cannabis-assisted Emotional Expansion series connected with me.

Not Such a “Silly Cannabis Fanboy”!

February 15th, 2021|

I use cannabis medicinally and religiously almost. I mean I hold it as sacred and healing. I started out smoking about a year ago. It calmed my anxiety to a manageable point and relief from

Sometimes I’m brilliant and sometimes I’m an idiot

February 9th, 2021|

You're going along and you do something that you think makes you look idiotic or dumb or unprofessional. You're embarrassed because this thing has happened … and usually your "inner critic" tells you how idiotic or dumb or unprofessional you looked.

Experiencing Cannabis as a Reward

January 23rd, 2021|

When I get flashbacks I used to hit my head out of frustration and cut myself with any near by sharp objects. But now I use marijuana as a reward system for my brain. That

I don’t think you’re very smart

January 19th, 2021|

"I've got something for you," he says with a little smile leaning over to share the screen on his phone. Ron does this often now during our Covid sheltering. In a dose of escapism, he spends a few minutes watching TikTok videos – mostly dogs, cats and house squirrels. And then with great delight shares one or two of his favorites with me.

Cannabis and Alcohol in this Age of COVID

January 12th, 2021|

Recently an acquaintance mentioned that she and her partner started working out in the afternoons because around 3 o'clock they found themselves thinking about cocktails… on a daily basis.

Here’s your horoscope for the New Year ✨

January 5th, 2021|

Just a short note today as it's the kick-off of our Winter Awakening Masterclass Course – there's always an excitement and anticipation in the air for our group in coming together for the first class of our 8 weeks. So I'm busy with that.

5 Reasons Cannabis is a Healing Spirit Plant

December 17th, 2020|

"You don't know what you're talking about!" angrily wrote one of the people, a therapist, who was getting my emails. "I'm unsubscribing because this is irresponsible behavior," they said in a fit of indignation over me talking about how cannabis appears to be helpful in tapering people off of alcohol.

Cannabis Never Helped Me

November 28th, 2020|

From someone who used MJ for 10 years to heal CPTSD [Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder] I can honestly say that cannabis couldn’t heal me. Only God heals. I am making-up for numbing myself that

An Empath Struggles with His “Gift”

November 24th, 2020|

You know ma'am, I've suffered from depression for over 7 years. I have had suicidal thoughts all the time. I mean, I haven't had a bad life per se but I'm an empath and I've

Can Cannabis Make You Go Insane?

November 13th, 2020|

First of all, I am in such deep gratitude for the expert neuroscience pros who are connecting the dots on how we can use cannabis in the safest and most optimal ways possible. These folks spend their lives poring over the science literature and are often conducting scientific studies themselves.

I needed that! (no, not a stiff drink)

November 3rd, 2020|

As I write this on this Election Day, it's not nearly noon in my neck of the woods – in a "deciding" state called Florida. Regardless of how it turns out today (or perhaps in a few days, few weeks… who knows. Right?) …you might well be either delighted or in a funk.

Are you an Idler, Seeker or Polisher?

September 22nd, 2020|

What I do isn't for everyone. That's probably an HUGE understatement. Why? Because I invite people to engage with me so they can learn to regulate and control their emotions.

Do you prefer dogs to people (sometimes?)

September 1st, 2020|

We love our dogs. Your dog is likely your "close" friend. There are those who abuse their dogs – but even at that, Spot will retreat to a corner waiting for his master's summoning call – whether that'll be a welcoming hand or another hard kick.

Zoomby-ized! Are you one of the squawking dead?

August 25th, 2020|

Zoom Zoom … always all the time. Many of us were relying on it heavily before COVID-19 but now it's a necessity. In pre-COVID it used to be that we could take breaks between Zoom meetings at the office, skip on over to the water cooler and get some face-to-face, flesh-and-bones interaction.

A Death that Wasn’t Just a Death

July 15th, 2020|

It stunned me! Even me – a seasoned TV news producer back then who chased ruin and disaster like it was a showcase of Eleusinian Mysteries. In my line of work, I was calloused and

Please, please let me win the lottery!

June 16th, 2020|

There's an old story about a pious man named Izzy*, who every night, on his knees at the side of his bed would pray for one singular thing. With folded hands and eyes squeezed

Cannabis & Kundalini … balancing emotions, moving trauma

June 14th, 2020|

I get letters… "It is so good to hear someone else talking about this! I stumbled upon this intentional healing practice with cannabis after having what could be called my initial Kundalini experience and

The Mystique of Cannabis & Emotional Processing

February 19th, 2020|

Hi Becca, I came across your website while looking for information and experiences from people who have had profound emotional and emotional integration experiences while on cannabis. Yesterday I took a few drops of THC/CBD

Inner Exploits No Longer Need Cannabis

February 18th, 2020|

Becca, I was pleased to find your website marrying cannabis and spirituality. In the last several weeks, I have had what I call a major spiritual opening on the order of one I had 30

I Can’t Leave My House

February 3rd, 2020|

PTSD [post-traumatic stress disorder] is killing me! I have problems leaving my home. I am considering using weed. My issue is that my medical supply is expensive and not consistent. Do you have suggestions? –

Get & Stay ELEVATED … Lose Self-Doubt and Fear

September 11th, 2019|

  “Everyone will notice.”  Hmmm, I was playing it out in my mind (what else is there to do stopped at an intersection, eh?). The implied story is that a person got promoted and to celebrate,

Sadness: Begin Connecting YOUR Dots

August 5th, 2019|

I used to have a terrible time with goodbyes. Kissing boyfriends goodbye, seeing friends off, my dogs going to doggie heaven, even the wrap-up of a retreat or the conclusion of a course or

Keep Listening To Your Dark Side!

August 3rd, 2019|

If you’ve been with us for one or more of our Cannabis Elevation Ceremonies, you know I always follow-up with an email inviting you to share your insights of your experience from our ONLINE Ceremonies.

The Third Frontier of Cannabis, Psycho-Spiritual

February 17th, 2019|

I went to a fascinating event where the theme was how psychedelic medicines will shape the society of the future. There was lots of discussion about cannabis – particularly using it with intention for safe

Cannabis Unveils the Shadow Side (so you can realize your happiest life)

December 30th, 2018|

This capacity to support us in our Inner work is one of the many things I love about the plant's gifts and why I offer cannabis plant medicine in my elevation ceremonies and healing sessions. In conducive settings, the plant helps us reveal our shadow side by prying back the mental metal curtain of our armored self.