Love The One You’re With

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We get lost in the “month of Love.” Here’s what I mean:

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So it’s February … the month of LOVE

Fresh coming off of the December holidays, whatever holiday you celebrate, there’s a good chance that it entailed buying gifts for others … making others feel special.

And now here we are showing your love for another in February. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. It’s a beautiful thing. But what we’re missing actually in our culture is a holiday devoted to “Getting to know Yourself”. OR “Learning to Love yourself”. It’s ironic. Here we are focusing on everybody else and their happiness and shooting out “love sprinkles”. And not giving any to ourself, which is really the most important thing that we can do in our life.

The joy that we want to claim for ourself begins with focusing on ourself. And it’s not about gifts and partying. There’s a place for that of course. But what I’m talking about is setting aside sacred time for yourself to uncover and release what’s holding you back.

I playfully call it a “Personal holiday” where we – everyday go inward and celebrate ourself by clearing out the feelings that are holding us back from the peace, the abundance, the love that we long for.  Planting those seeds comes through setting time for Inner exploration. We plant those seeds so that our life can grow and blossom into what we’ve always wanted. It’s hard often to do this – I know this from personal experience. To sit down and go inward. But there is a simple answer to this – and that’s the combination of the active Emotional Liberation approaches I teach supported with cannabis plant medicine. Together they catalyze our ability to go inward. It builds on itself … making us look forward to going inward because there’s so much positive change happening once we start.

I can’t say it’s not challenging but it is simple – it takes a certain amount of focus, a certain amount of effort. And you start experiencing another level of self confidence, another level of self-love … perhaps where none was there before.

See, the degree to how much self-love, self-respect and self-trust we have for ourself is central to how we navigate in the world. How you see yourself casts a reflection upon every important relationship in your personal universe. If you see yourself as not having enough or not being enough then everybody else picks up on those cues and energetically treats you the way you believe you deserve to be treated. Follow me?

It’s different for all of us. You may feel a sense of being unworthy and are thankful for anybody who’s going to pay attention to you. You may even be highly educated with impeccable credentials and still don’t believe that you’re enough. This was a version of me back in the day. Low self-esteem ruled my life – I’ll talk about that at another time.

But coming from a childhood where caregivers might have communicated to you that, “you don’t matter”. “There’s not time for you”… we take upon ourself that false belief that we have to find ways to earn other people’s attention and love. Because we believe we are not lovable. And it couldn’t be further from the truth. With a capital “T”.

We all have our own particular challenges that hold us back from living a life we truly desire – whether it’s a dream job that feels elusive or a lover who treats you like a doormat. Or just a general emptiness that we feel is never going to be filled up. I know this. I lived this.

The good news is that this can be turned around. When we begin taking care of our inner life we can begin releasing destructive patterns that sabotage our relationships with others and most importantly the relationship with ourselves.

My life’s work, called Emotional Liberation, is about teaching you, guiding you, to discover and release all that psychic crap, that shadow stuff, that holds you back. This work is effective and efficient. It’s helped me, it’s healed others. It can heal you. And I want to show you how to do this – to gain a greater sense of inner stability and flow from which transformational healing can arise.

So I invite you to stick with me, I have exciting things coming up to share with you. And I encourage you to begin thinking in terms of an on-going “personal holiday” or “personal time” where in just a few minutes a day you can move toward the life of your dreams. Let’s call it “Me Day”. And “Me Day” will be every day.

How does this sound to you? Radical? … or something that you could at least try on? Drop down to the comments and let me know your thoughts.

I’m Becca and I want you to have a magnificent life – and I want to help you do that.

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8 thoughts on “Love The One You’re With”

  1. As always Becca, very powerful message my friend. Learning to cultivate a daily practice has had incredible impacts on confidence, creativity as well as self love. This has in turn created ripples within this experience that I can only describe as life changing. The power of cannabis and meditation is under appreciated as well as misunderstood. Thank you for bringing awareness thru you’re messages. You are a beacon of light. Take care. 😊🙏

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    • Thanks Jordan, elegantly said. Once we can pair our desire to change with the WILL to change (and a plan for how to do it) we can spectacularly re-create our life. Absolutely.

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  2. Wow Becca – thanks for being so vulnerable to share your personal experience. So helpful for others who struggle and long to break through. You’re inspiring and I know all you do through emotional liberation is key!

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    • Thank you! Yes, I struggled with being a slave to my emotions for decades before I found this Emotional Liberation approach and it’s why I teach it. I want others who have the desire and THE WILL to move through their “dark night of the Soul” and not have to guess as to the most efficient and effective way to do that.

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  3. Hi, Becca,
    I just wanted to thank you for doing the work you do. I meditated with you last Sunday and found it very healing. I feel like fear is my internal predator, and your meditation led me to understanding a little more about how fear acts on my consciousness. I also want to thank you for the permission that you grant me to grant myself to use cannabis as part of a spiritual practice. Thanks again!

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    • So well said: “I feel like fear is my internal predator”. It is – and also our internal saboteur, haunting the halls of our mind, waiting to pounce.
      What we need to do, as you are discovering, is “meet” and “greet” our predator/saboteur in order to release it.

      I so appreciate your sharing and I find that our field reports are pivotal to supporting others in their journey.
      With Love 😉 Becca

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