Sometimes we just wanna get it done. Right?
Either you’re pressured – maybe on a deadline. Maybe frustrated or irritated that you gotta be doing it in the first place.
And this can be at your work, at home – taking care of something over the phone.
And you want it done now! And sure you can be a brat about it … Push push push
“I hope we can do this quickly because I’m in a hurry.”
I’m suggesting something different. I’m suggesting that you give people the benefit of the doubt that they’re hopping to it for you.
Mostly I find that people around me want be helpful … the people you work with, your partner, a service representative.
And here’s my tip – these 3 words that are magic …. when someone – close to you or somebody at a service desk you’ve never met before says: “I’ll take care of that right away…”
You say – get ready for it: “Thanks. Take your time.”
How often do you hear that from someone: “Take your time.”
This serves two fabulous purposes: First the difference between “Take your time” versus “could you hurry it up” is radically different and re-sets the energetic boundary between you and another person.
I say “take your time” in many situations and it pays dividends.
Think about it when someone says to you “Take your time” … doesn’t that lift the pressure and puts you in a different frame of mind?
And in my experience that person you just said that to isn’t going to work any slower to meet your needs.
But you have initiated a whole new dynamic. That’s the first purpose.
The second one is that it makes you a kinder person and when you offer up that spaciousness to another it makes YOU feel good.
I suggest that you try this as a practice. Perhaps incorporating it into your activities at least once a day.
And let me say this this is a real bonus for your intimate relationships – because it feels good to the other person when you’ve extended that kindness. And kindness begets kindness. And, let me add, when your partner reciprocates with that kindness, it helps the love flow.
So let me know in the comments below if you do this – or you’re up for trying it.
I’m Becca Williams and I want you to lead your most magnificence life and I want to help you do that.