Ever heard that ironic saying, “the beatings will continue until morale improves”? The irony, of course, is that yelling and screaming may get people to move a little faster but what’s left in the wake is often smoldering ruins. Here’s a better approach that is better for you too…
So sometimes you just wanna get it done. Right? Either you’re pressured – maybe on a deadline. Maybe frustrated or irritated that you gotta be doing it in the first place. And this can be at your work, at home – take care of something over the phone.
And you want it done now! And, sure, you can be a brat about it … Push, push push “I hope we can do this quickly, because I’m in a hurry.”
I’m suggesting something different. I’m suggesting that you give people the benefit of the doubt that they’re hopping to it for you. Mostly, I find that people around me wanna be helpful … the people you work with, your partner, a service representative.
And here’s my tip, those 3 words that are magic …. when someone – close to you or somebody at a service desk you’ve never met before, says, “I’ll take care of that right away”…
You say – get ready for it: “Thanks. Take your time.”
How often do you hear that from someone: “Take your time”.
This serves two fabulous purposes: First, the difference between, “Take your time” versus “could you hurry it up” is radically different and re-sets the energetic boundary between you and another person.
I say “take your time” in many situations and it pays dividends.
Think about it, when someone says to you “Take your time”, doesn’t that lift the pressure; it puts you in a different frame of mind.
And in my experience, that person you just said that to, isn’t going to work any slower to meet your needs. But you’ve initiated a whole new dynamic.
That’s the first purpose. The second one is that it makes you a kinder person and when you offer up that spaciousness to another, it makes you feel good.
I suggest that you try this as a practice. Perhaps incorporating at least once a day.
And let me say this, this is a real bonus for your intimate relationships – because it feels good to the other person when you’ve extended that kindness. And kindness begets kindness.
So let me know in the comments below if you do this – or you’re up for trying it. I’m Becca Williams and I want you to take magnificent care of yourself and I will help you do that.