Of course, you don’t recognize this unless you do the work to transform your own life – where you’re no longer a slave to those unruly and difficult emotions that ran you in earlier years. But your kids don’t know (or trust) that you will be a different way with them.
So where do you go from here? Do you sentence yourself to your own personal hell believing that it’s all your fault and you deserve the cold shoulder and ill temperaments?
It’s a question that many of my clients and students put on the table as their emotional healing reveals a sharper view of their former unhealthy behaviors. But as they come to understand the trauma that underpinned their actions, self-forgiveness and self-love come into sharp focus. And it’s these ingredients that form the foundation for moving forward with the authentic intention of healing their close relationships.
There can be a happy ending for you… that is releasing yourself from the hell you thought you deserved. As you do the work to reveal your TRUE SELF to your self, you come to understand that you now know what you didn’t know back then. And know that you can do now what you couldn’t do back then, which is to handle and make similar situations okay now that weren’t okay back then. That’s a mouthful, maybe read it twice;)
When you transform and shed the emotions that have been controlling you, you are ready to open a new chapter in your relationship with your adult kids. Will they respond to your entreaty? There’s no guarantee… the only guarantee will be that you will be a happier, healthier and more loving person. And with that role modeling, miracles can happen.
This is what we do in my 8-week Emotional Expansion Masterclass Courses. There’s one coming up in July/August. If you’d like to learn about it and get more information, I invite you to go here
And if you have thoughts or questions on this, hit reply and let me know!