Is THIS the Secret Emotion that you struggle with?

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I have a friend who by any measure of success has “made it.” He’s an acclaimed authority in his field; he makes good money and others clamor to work with him.

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Yet, he feels as if he’s never caught-up. As a perfectionist he’s nose to the grindstone working nights and weekends but seldom claims victories.

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Are there shades of this in you? If so, you may have a form of depression, what’s called cold depression, that’s the opposite of what we normally imagine depression to be. I have more to tell you in this week’s blog…

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If someone would have asked me years ago if I suffered from depression, my unequivocal answer would have been, “no” …because my stereotypical assumption, perhaps like yours, was that depression is going into a fog and doing nothing. That form of depression – the one we know so well – is rampant in our society.

And at the same time, there’s another form of depression that I believe is just as prevalent as the classic “going inward” depression we know of. I want to tell you more about this and if you recognize this “hamster on the wheel” existence and want to get off, I have a way for you to do that.

So, let me tell you a little about me. I was pretty successful in what I used to do. I was an executive TV news producer, I did on-air work too and worked with National Public Radio. And no matter how well I did, in my own mind, I never did well enough – there was always something that I could have done better or I believed I messed up in someway and had to compensate for. So there was always a voice in my head, that Inner critic, that brought out the metaphorical stick so I could beat myself with it. It’s a miserable way to live and maybe you can identify… if so, drop down to the comments section and let me know.

So now, as an educator and guide who specializes in emotional recovery, I know this emotion as “Cold Depression.” Cold Depression. What is cold depression? This is a form of resistance to Depression where instead of going into that fog, we push harder, we over-stimulate and keep running away from feelings and situations we do not want to look at or address.

Now, in our culture, this is easy to do because working really hard, being driven, always busy – is seen as positive, even celebrated. That’s why I call this Cold Depression the secret emotion. And I want to bring it out of the closet for you because I see this workaholism all around me… and it’s up-close-and-personal because it’s what I used to do.

I suffered from Cold Depression, and I can’t say enough about the importance of recognizing it. I realize now I was depressed but, instead of shutting down in despair, as those who do in the classic form of depression, I went hyper to try outrunning it and not feeling that awful darkness.

See, it was about, a deep sense of unworthiness and I couldn’t bring myself to go inward to look at myself and release my negative self-image.

Instead, I charged outward, pushing hard to prove myself in a futile effort to gain acceptance and validation. Futile because, and you may identify with this, that I subconsciously thought so little of myself, that no matter how successful I was out there, it would never register in here.

Now, once I began learning how to untangle myself from these emotions and releasing the trauma that underpinned them, I learned a new way of living. Does that knot of troubling emotions sound familiar? If you’re ready to begin developing an Inner self-mastery to create a new way of living, I have something that might be a perfect fit for you.

Starting in the New Year, over 8 incredible weeks we’ll be going deep into this emotions work – an acclaimed program of Self-Discovery. We’ll spend time exploring your past, connecting to your core Self, nourishing your body, your mind, your Soul, discovering what you really desire and strengthening (or creating!) connection to your Higher Power.

Of course, we’ll be exploring and experimenting – under my careful clinical guidance and expert coaching – with cannabis in its role as both a nervous system support and energy medicine for this Awakening to your true Self. Capital “S”. This work is effective and efficient and changes you both on the inside and on the outside.

The exploration of Depression, whether it’s the classic form or Cold Depression that you’re wrestling with, you’ll have the opportunity in a very safe, private group environment to become clear on patterns and beliefs that keep you stuck and small. And, importantly, begin healing the wounds of earlier trauma and release these toxic coping mechanisms. You’ll learn how to transform your emotional states, and, in turn, your relationships and your life.

We’re all built for recovery, we just gotta know how to do it. I’m Becca Williams and I want you to lead your most magnificent life and I would love to spend the time with you to show you how to do that in this new year. Simply click the link to get all the details, I’ve kept tuition very accessible with an easy payment – plan so if this calls to you, register soon, only 9 spots left and you’ll be on your way. We’ll be on our way.

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3 thoughts on “Is THIS the Secret Emotion that you struggle with?”

  1. Undoubtedly, we’ll all happy to wave goodbye to the challenges that COVID laid/lays on us. BUT at the same time, it may have also presented you with the opportunity to clearly see what’s not working in your life and what you want to change. If depression or cold depression is an emotion that you’re wrestling with, I invite you to join me in the New Year to gain control over your emotions in order to use them for your personal accelerated growth! I would love to walk this path with you.

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  2. Wow – so insightful – never thought about depression this way – thanks for the enlightening message.

    So funny the things our inner-self can do to avoid/hide/ignore – and so cleverly that we probably don’t even have a clue!

    Sounds like many could do well with your upcoming 8-week series. I’ll be looking into it myself!

    Thanks once again for your wisdom, Becca!

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    • You’re so very welcome. Do join us! This is a highly interactive small group coaching environment with privacy and anonymity, which is highly valued by our students. The group dynamic builds safety, trust and confidence and helps you understand that everyone has common emotional upsets and patterns from the past – and can heal them!

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